Relationships in University Part IV: What to not do when you’re in love

 

We come to university with rose-colored glasses only to discover that we were horribly wrong about what relationships are like. However, you needn’t experience painful love and get horribly scarred. In this article we will tell you the dos and don’t before and during your romantic relationships in university.

 What you should avoid if you’re looking for romance

University teaches you much about what relationships can look like, but there are certain things someone who isn’t in a relationship should avoid.  

1.      Don’t chase someone who is not interested

This goes for both guys and girls. This is not just when someone has explicitly said, “No, I am not interested”. Sometimes, people will keep you hanging and you will only suffer. Move on, there many fishes in the sea.

2.      Avoid people who have a history of short relationships

Look, I am not saying that they are bad people. But, if someone keeps switching a significant other too quickly, you won’t be very different. And instead of suffering you will get the chance to find someone who will treat you right.

3.      Don’t be with someone who you fight with

Every relationship has its healthy dose of disagreements. But if you are fighting all the time, or if it’s more bad than good, ending the relationship can be better for both individuals. Don’t stay with someone who makes you feel miserable you don’t deserve it.

4.      End it if they’re avoiding the big step

Just because you feel like you’ve found a life partner doesn’t mean the other person feels the same way. In fact, if they avoid a serious talk with their parents after you’ve given them a green light, it’s better if you leave.

What you should avoid if you are in a relationship?

Contrary to popular belief, it is harder to maintain a relationship than to get into one. It is very easy to get into a relationship, it is difficult to meet eye to eye with your partner.

Sticking Together 

Yes, it may feel like an eternity and ditching that class may seem worth it but it’s not. Sticking to your significant other 24/7 is not a guarantee you will stay together. Instead, it becomes toxic isolating you from your friends, distracting you and keep you from growing. Learning how to divide your time, is key if you want a healthy and long-lasting relationship.

Think it will last forever

It’s easy spend every single moment with each other when you’re in university and can easily meet up. But what about when you graduate? It can be challenging and if couples do survive up to this point, they will have to face the big question, will you spend the rest of your life together? Here is where families get involved and it may or may not work out.

Date your Classmates

This is the biggest mistake I believe freshies make when they come to uni. I know romance is in the air, and it may seem like your relationship will last forever, but it won’t. The same way the first group of friends you have in Uni doesn’t last, yours will become a desi love story in which you go your separate ways and your classmates will become gossiping aunties.

 

How people maintain healthy relationships

It may seem like there is magic to a relationship which not everyone understands. However, relationships can be fairly straightforward, but it requires both parties to put their part for it to be successful.

Make the effort

Both people have to put in the effort to ensure that a relationship is successful Afterall, it takes two to tango. If you don’t understand what you partner really is like and accept them for who they are, you will never be happy.  

Communicate Often

Small misunderstandings lead to big fights. Which is why it is very important to constantly make sure the other party understands what you are trying to say. This is the only way you will meet eye to eye with your partner.

Agree to Disagree

Understanding each other is essential to this. Obviously, you’re two different people you won’t agree upon every single little thing. However, you can sit down and find the middle ground. It will take time, but it is worth it.

Trust Each Other

You may not like it if your partner hangs out with someone or does something. However, your partner is not your child. You can’t force them to do or not do something you don’t like. Here is where trust becomes key.

And, that's all the advice you need to navigate relationships in university. Obviously, this is an oversimplification and sometimes this advice may not hold true. But still, these are the tips all university students learn form experience and should implement. 

So, do you agree or disagree with these tips? Let us know in the comments below!